Ben and Elana's Wedding
I have trouble thinking of my time in the US as travel blog-worthy because I have trouble thinking of it as travel. Which is silly.
Anyway, After my second year in Korea, I returned for Ben and Elana's amazing wedding at Newt's Hollow, outside of Berkeley.
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That was most of my contribution, but the wedding continued to be awesome and whimsical. Four friends at the end of the labyrinth carried flags and flanked the couple as they walked to the minister. The four flag bearers and the minister had memorized a back and forth script in which the minister asked why they brought the couple forward, with super-specific and adorable responses, such as that in a house of twelve people they found themselves alone together, that they both considered rice and beans to be a complete meal, that in their fairy tales there are no knights or princesses — only each other, and because they asked to be brought. The minister then asked Ben and Elana who would support the new family they intended to create, since they were melding their last names into a new family name. They first called upon their parents. The five parents — including Ben’s step mother — had each brought a length of rope that was symbolic of their family history, ranging from a tie with shamrocks to represent Ben’s Dad’s Irish and academic background to Elana’s Dad’s simple but dependable silk rope and fishing line, to a strip of quilt being made for the new couple to Ben’s Mom’s string of traditional Mexican decorations. The parents tied the ropes together — and symbolically tied themselves to the McKelahan family — until the rope formed a ring around the couple and was laid at their feet. The parents vowed to accept both Ben and Elana and any offspring they may have as blood of their blood and flesh of their flesh. Ben and Elana then called upon their extended families, and the minister had them make a similar vow of acceptance and support, and place their hands on the couple or the parents. Next Ben and Elana called upon their friends, and the minister asked us to give our support and bring joy to the new couple. Once we placed our hands on the families, Ben and Elana called upon All that Is, Was, or Will Be — an excellent compromise on the god issue since Ben was becoming a minister and Elana is an athiest, yet they have similar beliefs with different terminology — and the minister asked for the blessing of all of existence for the couple. Ben and Elana then exchanged wonderfully specific vows, such as promising to use silly voices together, as well as some more serious but still specific vows about loving and supporting each other. It was adorable.
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